Maybe in some circles but I’ve always felt welcomed and supported by the women around me. I’m sorry that you can’t say the same.
I want you to know that your feelings are valid but please don’t let the actions of a few reactionaries spoil the entire ideal that feminism stands on.
I hear your frustration, and I won’t deny that some feminist spaces have blind spots or even hostility toward men’s issues. But dismissing the entire movement because of those flaws is like rejecting democracy because some politicians are corrupt it throws out the good with the bad. Feminism, at its core, is about dismantling rigid gender roles, which harms men too (e.g., stigma around male vulnerability, custody biases, conscription).
You’re right that some self-labeled feminists don’t live up to that ideal, but that doesn’t negate the millions who fight for parental leave, against male suicide stigma, or for LGBTQ+ rights. If you’ve been burned by hypocrites, I get it but I’d encourage you to judge ideas by their best advocates, not their worst.
That said, I’m open to your examples. If we agree the goal is equality, maybe we can find common ground on where movements fall short.