My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.

  • NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io
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    4 days ago

    He is getting a divorce.

    From the context it’s clear he’s getting divorced by his wife after getting caught.

    It’s not so easy to make such a big change in life without being sure first, that’s why people tend to already have met other one to love before leaving their current partner .

    Okay then meet with the side chick and then get a divorce. He didn’t do that; he waited until he was caught. That’s the most piece of shit development possible.

    Anyway, it would not be easier for the leaved part to accept it. Normally the pain tends to come for the fact that someone who you loves, and that you think they love you back, no longer loves you. The temporal fact that their new relationship overlaps a little with the time before leaving you does not ease much the pain.

    The fuck? You do realize that people commonly leave their spouses due to cheating right? As in from their own side divorce/break up after finding out. Clearly cheating as an act, irrespective of the context, is hurtful. If you can’t get that simple fact then frankly you need to do less armchair psychology and more talking to people.

    Things would change if there’s manipulations, abusive behavior or harm is being done on purpose of course.

    Cheating is inherently abusive. It’s a betrayal of the consent their partner has given for an exclusive relationship.