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Cake day: June 21st, 2023

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  • My partner and I dated for nearly a decade before we decided to get married. It’s more important that you two are on the same page than it is for you to measure up to some arbitrary cultural norm. Even after a decade, we still laid some ground rules and made some agreements about HOW we would handle things in a worst case scenario. Prenup/postnup type stuff. People may view this as nonromantic, but I can’t think of anything less romantic than arguing about shit after the fact with someone you already broke up with.

    Make sure you have your paperwork in order though. If you want your partner to be able to make decisions for you in an emergency or if you want them to inherit something if the worst happens, you should check because you likely have to explicitly set that up.






  • This is one of my partner and my biggest conflict points.

    Like Gollum, she lives in the darkest, gloomiest basement, keeps the shades shut and only wants dim, warm amber light in the insufficient and poorly located light receptacles.

    I on the other hand want to see what I’m doing and will open every window, tune the lights to the most white-hot, surface-of-the-sun white, and half the time I’m sitting in my hammock on the patio so I can feel the warm sunshine and get the omnidirectional sunlight. I’d like to set up her basement with some light tunnels and better lighting fixtures at some point.

    I am objectively correct in this matter. :D