I used to see him all over the place and now nothing. I checked his post history and it’s been 24 days since he last posted anything.

I don’t know the guy or have any personal stake, but seeing someone everywhere just suddenly disappear is odd.

  • Skua@kbin.earth
    6·
    16 days ago

    I will absolutely not share specifics of this since it would be doxxing him, but I found one of his other social media accounts and it had a post from a week ago that seemed ordinary enough. Whatever got him to stop posting here, it wasn’t something so drastic as to prevent him from engaging with his interests

    (Also Squid, if you see this, I am happy to explain how I found you over DMs if it concerns you)

    • FaceDeer@fedia.io
      2·
      16 days ago

      Glad to hear that he’s apparently doing okay.

      But I must say, I think it’s probably for the best that he dialed down his Fediverse engagement. Both for his own sake (nobody should spend that much time on social media) and for the Fediverse as a whole - he seemed to be everywhere that I went and it made the place feel small and monocultural.

      I’ve always liked the way on Reddit I barely ever recognized anyone’s name. I prefer engaging with the conversation, not with the people.

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
        2·
        16 days ago

        Being real, part of what’s been great about lemmy is connection with people, instead of empty bullshit jokes and snark and the usual smugness that comes from not knowing the people.

        There’s a been dozens of times I’ve seen people here see someone acting unusual, and reaching out to see what’s going on, offering sympathy and ending with mutual respect instead of slap fights.

        Fuck the way reddit worked. It didn’t work, but everyone thought it was the only way to have threaded forums, that you had to accept everyone being anonymous dicks as the price of discourse and content.

        But it isn’t, it really isn’t the only way. And lemmy, for all its faults, still has that sense of actual community where you can go to a new C/ and run across lemmy friends. Some of them may even turn into friends in other ways.

        The old squid was indeed everywhere, and he made plenty of mistakes along the way, but damned if he didn’t do his part to make lemmy feel like a place for people first, even when the way he went about that was one of his mistakes.

        I don’t want to float through the kind of cesspits reddit could have, feeding back into toxicity via anonymity and disconnection.

        • FaceDeer@fedia.io
          1·
          16 days ago

          Well, that’s fine if you prefer it that way. I prefer relative anonymity and subject-focused discussion myself. It’s a preference, not an objective “I’m right and you’re wrong” sort of thing.

          • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
            1·
            16 days ago

            Word. No right or wrong :)

            Just don’t know that you’ll find lemmy in general that subject focused. There’s some communities that stay pretty tight, but it tends more towards mini chats rather than more structured comment chains.

      • PlexSheep@infosec.pub
        1·
        16 days ago

        I really like just occasionally recognizing someone. Also, user labels are awesome. I write about funny jokes and mad nuts in those.

        • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          1·
          15 days ago

          I have one for the person who taught me how to use tags and someone who is “literally jarvas” but I forgot why lol

          It’s really sweet seeing someone who you’ve had a positive experience with before:)

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      1·
      15 days ago

      I’m glad he’s off if that’s truly him then. Some of the other posts here were worrying. Best of luck to him and his family.

  • dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de
    1·
    14 days ago

    That’s a good point I used to see him all the time and chatted with him some.

    Last I spoke, in public comments in here, he had completed his move to the UK (where I live too) so perhaps he’s just been busy with all the changes.

    Edit: Good on you for asking.

  • rodneylives@lemmy.world
    1·
    15 days ago

    I know FlyingSquid from another community, and sent them a private message just a few days ago saying hello. (I didn’t know they had been missing at the time.) FS is awesome, and I really hope they’re okay.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      1·
      12 days ago

      Well, if you truly do know them - let them know it was noticed and some of us do hope they are ok. A break or a full breakup is totally justified. I just don’t want to see people hurt or hurting.

    • Squizzy@lemmy.world
      01·
      14 days ago

      He is power tripping mod, blocked me because he disagreed with me. Had to get another mod to address it.

  • ClanOfTheOcho@lemmy.world
    0·
    16 days ago

    Last I saw, he moved back to the UK and was struggling to find a job. The sudden, unexpected lack of communication is certainly concerning.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      0·
      16 days ago

      I knew about the UK move, but had no idea about the job. I agree that the sudden cutoff is strange indeed.

      • protist@mander.xyzEnglish
        0·
        16 days ago

        He shared a lot about his life on here and I worry he set himself up for failure moving to the UK. Based on what he’s said, he had a condition where he no longer wanted to eat, and then stopped working for a long time because of that. He seemed to expect that finding a job was going to be easy moving to a new country, but that’s not typically the case, especially after having not worked in years.

        After moving, he talked a lot about finding a job, which had me wondering what changed. While he wasn’t working, he was spending 12+ hours on Lemmy every day, with like well over a hundred posts/comments per day, and constantly talking about not being able to work. Going from that mindset to desperately trying to find a job in a foreign country seems like a mindfuck.

  • gonzo-rand19@moist.catsweat.com
    01·
    16 days ago

    There was a point a few weeks back where he said he was going to kill himself because he was feeling upset about his future in the UK for some reason and some other user had agreed to like, watch him do it, but then that person backed out. He was acting really weird, but kept up his commenting rate as normal.

    Hopefully he’s just stepped away from this platform like someone said and hasn’t harmed himself.

      • gonzo-rand19@moist.catsweat.com
        01·
        15 days ago

        I read the comments when they occurred and that’s what Squid communicated. I remember that he said he would do it and that a user had agreed to watch because it was shocking to read and he was very upset.

        I don’t remember further details, like which user backed out. Squid kept commenting for a long while after that so I just assumed he was being impulsive and calmed down.

        This might be completely unrelated to why he’s left, but it occurred. If you have the “real story,” go ahead and correct me.

        • Wren@lemmy.world
          0·
          15 days ago

          I do have the real story but it’s not mine to tell, so I won’t relay it here. But yours is not correct. You’re misremembering what happened.

            • Wren@lemmy.world
              0·
              15 days ago

              No it isn’t useless. You are misrepresenting what happened. I am here to make this statement. It is useful in that anyone that might have read what you said will hopefully disregard it as a result

              • gonzo-rand19@moist.catsweat.com
                01·
                15 days ago

                And yet, you can’t articulate what’s wrong with it or why, so is that not a reason for people to completely disregard your assertion, too?

                If someone reads what both of us have said, neither of us can provide credible evidence that we are correct. That’s as useless of a conversation as I can imagine.

                You’re basically saying “nah, you’re wrong” and people are supposed to buy it based on your word? Again, useless.