Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as “whatever you say you fucking dumbass” and it pisses me off.
And ya, I’m aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let’s see em ya jerks!!!
It depends on what it’s in response to.
Dinner at 6 at Greasy Spoon? 👍Entirely reasonable.
Should we do the project in COBOL? 👍Entirely unreasonable, but not rude.
My cat just died. 👍Rude.
This is absolutely spot on. Well done.
This is the best answer. Also, even in some serious case the thumbs up is interpreted as “noted, all good”. It does not mean positive action, just saying “noted”.
I guess I just picture a chat as a textual representation of a conversation and if I said to you, want to get dinner at 6, and you replied 👍 in real life, I would cancel the dinner lmao
I see where you’re coming from now. In most English-speaking cultures, it is not conventional to use hand gestures as a substitute for spoken words in a conversation. Breaking social conventions for no apparent reason is at least potentially rude.
You’re translating those conventions directly to chat. Chat is not spoken word, and it is conventional to use emojis, at least the really unambiguous ones, instead of typed words in chat some of the time. People do not usually do this with any rude or insulting intent.
I appreciate the level headed reply in the sea of insanity I have started with this thread.
Honestly, I don’t interpret it as something malicious ever either, like I don’t think everyone is actually telling me to fuck myself, it just reads that way to me.
You saying you’d straight up cancel a dinner because someone gave you a thumbs up instead of a verbal response genuinely blew my mind lmao. Ngl fam, that’s a bit extreme. I give people the thumbs up all the time, and imagining someone becoming so upset at me for doing it that they’d cancel our dinner together is insane to me. I couldn’t be friends with such a person without feelings like so was constantly walking on eggshells.
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It was an exageration my guy, as with all my reactions to the 👍 in this thread. It does not make me truly angry, I’m being a bit silly because it’s fun.
So I wasn’t sure if you were an asshole, but based on this comment, I’m am not certain you are.
I say this because it’s fun for me and I’ve been taught to speak at my audience’s level.
Maybe try not habitually exaggerating? People who don’t know you are just gonna take you at your word.
You and I are very different then. If I tell someone that dinner is at 6 and they give me a thumbs up, I would interpret that as “I acknowledge that I heard you and have no objections. It is not worth taking my attention off of whatever I am doing.”
I do not think the majority of people would agree that chat is a textual representation of a conversation. It’s its own thing and this is evident by slang, leetcode, emoticons, emoji, and euphemisms (🍆💦). How people talk over text is completely different than how they speak in real life, especially when they’re typing fast.
You’re weird.
Yes, and weird is fun
If you are mid drinking or chewing and somebody asks you a question, a thumbs up is perfectly acceptable as a yes. Otherwise its a bit odd, but not offensive. Its like a +1 affirmation
It’s probably one of the auto responses on their side when the text alert pops up. Maybe they were driving or I. The middle of something and it was just easier for them to respond this way.
It’s pretty clear the issue here is you. Specifically, your reaction. The solution to than can only come from you. The world will not bend to you and the world is not responsible for making you feel certain things, that’s all you.
This is literally my “message received” emote.
If people thought it was rude, I’d be fired by now.
Next post:
“Why do people respond to a message that doesn’t need a response when they could just send an emoji?”
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Be careful that people don’t think you’re contractually agreeing to something with the emoji: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/jul/06/canada-judge-thumbs-up-emoji-sign-contract
There are workgroups at my job that use it as acknowledgement and for voting consensus as we are allowed to attend meetings camera and mic off.
Maybe you’re just that good at your job.
Are you old?
I see that as an old people response.
Why tho? I am not old and this is fairly standard in my work place, some forums I use, messages with friends etc. Maybe it’s a culture thing but definitely not an old people thing imo. Its the easiest way to send an acknowledgment or agreement with a message without spamming the group chat and it makes it easier to count if you interpret it as votes.
Edit: I am talking about reacting to the messages directly, I don’t reply to someone with just a thumbs up emoji when I can just say Ok in most context.
No. Your reading of it is unusual, in most contexts. It almost always means “agreement, and I have nothing of substance to add”.
It can be rude if the thing you’ve said should warrant a substantial response. Like if you wrote “my brother just died in a car wreck”, a thumbs up (or probably any emoji) would be an inappropriate response. Heavier stuff warrants whole words.
But if it’s like “Can you get cat food at the store? The kind we always get” then a thumbs up is an acceptable shorthand for "yes, I understand and commit to this request "
👎
Don’t even get me started on this one
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🙂
oh noooo
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No. This is a rude reply:🖕
👍
This one feels worse to me ahahah
It’s a pretty simple “acknowledged” to me. It’s a “I’ve not just seen your message, I’ve read it, and I have no further comments”.
I don’t think I’ve ever interpreted it as rude.
Depends on who’s saying it and to what, and in what manner (message reaction, its own separate text).
“Hey who wants pizza tonight?” in the group text.
Bunch of👍reactions mixed in with some 🍕 and 🕺
That’s normal and people agreeing with you.
“Hey could you pick up some toilet paper on the way home?”
👍 reaction.
That’s a neutral kind of acknowledgement.
“Hey man, that was pretty fucked what you said back at the party. I think the others want to talk to you about it.”
“👍”
That’s rude and dismissive, and not just an acknowledgement text.
Aka context matters, like all forms of english communication.
First of all - I’m shocked that anyone would use a thumb up like in your last example. That’s obviously extremely rude and disrespectful.
Second of all - I’m shocked that some people can’t see the difference of the usage of the thumb up and believe that it’s always rude, regardless of context.
It’s a little bit of a generational/cultural gap, I think! Like how
Ok.andOk...are fully normal to boomers, but anyone millennial and younger are going to read that as being short, or as an ominous trailing off compared to the neutral, no-caps-no-punctuationkkorok.I think children up through the younger end of millennials are just more likely to give neutral-to-lightly-positive acknowledgement in other ways, like 🫡or ✅ or 🥰 or 💯. 👍 is reserved by some for lower enthusiasm or even a restrained, mild annoyance.
That was pretty fucking funny
When I personally use it it means “OK, sounds good, I have nothing more to add but I read your message.”
It has also been ruled in court (I think in Australia but I dont remember for certain) that it is legally binding as a verbal agreement.
Basically a farmer sent a message to a wholesaler saying “Hey, I need to double my stock feed order for next quarter” or something like that, the supplier sent back a thumbs up. So the delivery arrived and it was only the regular amount. The farmer had to buy the extra amount at retail prices and it cost him tens of thousands more, so he sued for damages. The supplier argued that text messages and thumbs up werent the correct ordering procedure and that he wasnt liable, the court ruled effectively that “Then you should have said that. A thumbs up is a general term of positive response to a question or statement and in this case constitutes acceptance of a verbal agreement” and had to cough up.
Found the case, it was Canada and the farmer F-ed up not the supplier.
Exactly. Everyone at work uses it to cut the chain of “Looks good”, “Thanks”, “No problem”, etc short. If you’re interpreting an emoji as an attack you might have anger issues.
Context, it is the “K” of Emojis, acceptable as quick response, insulting in any serious conversation
Okay is one of the coolest words ever. It started sort of as a “meme” speak thing around 1900 (I don’t remember exactly, may have been older). They would take phrases then spell them differently then abbreviate the misspelling. So okay the word was originally OK the acronym for “oll korrect” which was “all correct.”
A similar thing would be like saying “acey” for “AC” for “all correct”. I’ve thought about trying to make it a thing with my friends but it feels a little too abstract.
in response to plans?
chill.
in response to something like a political opinion, highly sarcastic
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GenX here. Shit, I do thumbs up frequently to confer agreement.
And I will indeed give you a middle finger emoji to say, “you fucking dumbass.”Millennial here, I use the shit emoji
Boomer here, what’s an emoji?
Whatever you say you fucking dumbass
Yeah that sounds like a you problem. Most people use it to just mean “ok.” But I mean, if you said “mom just died 😭” and you get “👍” as a reply, that one’s probably rude.
Depending on the context, it is can be used sarcastically, which may be rude. But I’ve used this even in semi-formal settings.
I have to ask, are people these days that easily offended?
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I agree with all of what you said. Both paragraphs
Yes lmao, where you been? People want to be offended now to the degree where they look for things that aren’t really offensive but they can use it for sympathy likes.
Maybe I just have tuned my ability to notice it from years of “nothing is ever good enough” parents, teachers, and employers, but it’s literally the same mechanism that made my mom say “well a B is good but you need to be getting As. (And later) Well that low A is good but you need to get it higher.” Or my boss just always saying “faster faster” no matter how much “faster faster” you go, so I now just say “you got it boss” and continue at my pace instead of breaking my back just to hear “faster faster” again in response like he’s some kind of weird Gull that gained the ability to mimic human speech it can’t comprehend. It all comes from the same place, plus a dash of clickbait.
For a long time when I worked in restaurants and the boss would start blasting us with “faster!!!” we just all go “working hard, working hard” with no added enthusiasm or energy.
No, you need therapy
